9 Sex buzzkills you should avoid

Although sex is very much a “give and take” interaction, where any potential fumbling is balanced out by emotional intensity and passion, enhancing your sex life can be made possible by practising certain techniques and especially avoiding others. So What should you never do before or while having sex? Don’t worry we are there to help you! This is a compilation of buzz kill acts that you should never ever do while you’re at it!

 

Not Kissing During Sex

It’s extremely important for men to connect with their partner’s on an emotional level during any type of intimate interaction, including sex. Not only will this simple, caring act help women feel more invested in sex, it will also serve to create closer emotional ties for couples. Studies have shown that couples who have a significant emotional investment in their relationship will derive more enduring pleasure from acts of physical intimacy, such as sex. kissing can have amazingly profound results over time!

Answering A Phone Call

We get it, you could actually get a rather urgent phone call which you cannot avoid answering. But, if it is not absolutely urgent - just put it on silent! Seriously, there has got to be a better time to pick up and start chit-chatting with your bestie! 

Talking Too Much

Now we all know that talking dirty in bed can be a huge turn on for some. But what of talking incessantly while having sex and just not keeping quiet even for a minute?! We all enjoy our minute or two of silence during or after sex to really just feel what we’re feeling! Trying to have an actual conversation during the act can be a tad bit distracting.

Ejaculating Too Soon / Too Early

Knowing when it’s time to “finish up” can be vague, particularly if you’ve just entered into a sexual relationship with your partner. A good indication of whether you’re pacing yourself correctly is the behaviour of your partner. Ejaculating too soon or premature ejaculation may cause them to be surprised or, unfortunately, frustrated. Ejaculating too late may induce physical pain, as repetitive thrusting can prove detrimental to the overall health of the vaginal regions over prolonged periods of time.

Treating Sex Like Pornography

Sex and porn are two entirely different things. If you plan on maintaining a healthy and loving relationship with your partner, you most likely won’t be doing or saying the things you see in porn. Part of a successful sexual relationship is a generous dose of love and affection. If acting out your favourite porn fantasies excludes these two things, you may not be cut out for a real relationship.

Misappropriated Weight Transfer

There’s a good chance that at some point during sex, you’re going to find yourself on top. It’s also likely that given the average size and weight of men when compared to women, you’re going to be heavier than your partner. If this is the case, pay particular attention to how you’re holding yourself up during sex. Under no circumstances should you use your partner as a full body pillow. Not only is this uncomfortable, it could cause the female to experience physical pain. 

Biting without a hint

Biting can definitely be an arousing experience. Depending on the strength and location of your love bites, you may be able to drive your sexual partner crazy. That being said, it’s important that your partner feel safe and secure during sex, and unannounced, overly strong bites may create the entirely wrong impression. As long as your partner knows what to expect, there shouldn’t be a problem.

 

Not Making Any Sound At All

Everyone likes to feel that their partner is having a good time while having sex and the sounds you make, whether loud or soft, is just a way of assuring your partner that you are. So while you don’t need to be so loud that your neighbours can hear you, being completely silent can also sometimes be a bummer. 

Remembering past things/ Talking about ex

 

It’s certainly not the best time to think about your past experience or your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. It’s quite natural to remember your history but doesn't talk about it while having sex. If you really need to talk about it then hold yourself until you are done.