Humans are meant to follow the constitution of their respective countries. But they also are given some power of their own. These are intrinsic rights which we were all born with and in asserting these rights we recognize our own worth as dignified human beings. In fact, the very act of asserting these rights serves to boost our self-esteem. We of course always try to follow the rules and regulations of our governments but at the same time we forget to assert our rights in right places and in right time.
These are our fundamental rights from birth and are the basis of our most basic boundaries.
The right to state my own needs and set my own priorities as a person, independent from any roles that I may assume in my life. This right recognises our existence beyond the roles we inhabit (whether they be that of a husband, wife, mother or father) and accepts we have priorities beyond the realms of those roles. We are all, at our core, individuals and this right highlights we should be treated as such. In truth, to have priorities for ourselves outside of the roles we inhabit is healthy as it promotes a sense of autonomy and individuality.
The right to be treated with respect as an intelligent, capable and equal human being. This is one of our most basic rights and yet one that is violated all too often. Absolutely all of us deserve to be treated with respect.
The right to express my feelings. However we may sometimes feel we were all born with worth and your feelings are just as valuable as anyone else’s. In expressing your feelings to others you are subconsciously communicating you positive self-worth. Indeed, the very act of others listening to your feelings is validating and may even contribute towards improving your self-esteem.
The right to express my opinions and values. We all have the right to our own opinions, beliefs and values. This may sound simple, perhaps even obvious, but all too often others try to impress their opinions, beliefs and values upon us, negating our right to our own opinions, beliefs and values in the process. When they refuse to allow us the freedom to choose our own opinions, beliefs and values they are violating our rights on a fundamental level.
The right to say ‘no’ and ‘yes’ for myself. When others say no and yes for us they are making decisions for us based upon their priorities and values. It is our fundamental right to make our own decisions based upon our own priorities and values. When others violate this right it disempowers us, and this silently communicates to others, and to ourselves, that we are incapable of making decisions – which is a complete fallacy.
The right to make mistakes and forgive myself. Every person without exception makes mistakes and this right reinforces the right to make those mistakes and forgive ourselves for doing so, understanding that no one is perfect. We also have the right to feel comfortable in admitting our mistakes to others.
The right to change my mind. Each of us has the right to change our mind no matter what the circumstance or reason.
The right to say ‘I don’t understand’ and ask for more information. Usually when we don’t understand we simply need further clarification. This right enables us to feel comfortable in admitting to when we don’t understand and feel confident in asking for more information.
The right to ask for what I want. This right highlights that our wants are just as valid as anyone else’s. We have every right to make reasonable requests of others and ask for what we want.
The right to decline responsibility for other people’s problems. Generally, our own problems are enough to contend with without others imposing their problems onto us also. If others exclaim their problems to us we are within our rights to refuse responsibility for them. Depending on the situation we may not only take responsibility for others problems but try to rescue them too.
The right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval. This right reminds us that we do not need to seek the approval of others when dealing with them and frees us to deal with people according to our own set of values and beliefs.
Each and every right serves to emphasize our self-worth as dignified, competent and equal human beings. When any of our fundamental rights are violated it silently communicates that either we are incapable or of less worth than others – neither of which is true. Thankfully it is within our control to refuse others violating our rights.
The first step to protecting our rights is to memorize them so we can quickly recognize when they have been violated. The second step is to calmly deal with those who have violated our rights in an assertive way. In being assertive, we create the right in question as a personal boundary and vocalize this to others.
Humans are meant to follow the constitution of their respective countries. But they also are given some power of their own. These are intrinsic rights which we were all born with and in asserting these rights we recognize our own worth as dignified human beings. In fact, the very act of asserting these rights serves to boost our self-esteem. We of course always try to follow the rules and regulations of our governments but at the same time we forget to assert our rights in right places and in right time.
These are our fundamental rights from birth and are the basis of our most basic boundaries.
The right to state my own needs and set my own priorities as a person, independent from any roles that I may assume in my life. This right recognises our existence beyond the roles we inhabit (whether they be that of a husband, wife, mother or father) and accepts we have priorities beyond the realms of those roles. We are all, at our core, individuals and this right highlights we should be treated as such. In truth, to have priorities for ourselves outside of the roles we inhabit is healthy as it promotes a sense of autonomy and individuality.
The right to be treated with respect as an intelligent, capable and equal human being. This is one of our most basic rights and yet one that is violated all too often. Absolutely all of us deserve to be treated with respect.
The right to express my feelings. However we may sometimes feel we were all born with worth and your feelings are just as valuable as anyone else’s. In expressing your feelings to others you are subconsciously communicating you positive self-worth. Indeed, the very act of others listening to your feelings is validating and may even contribute towards improving your self-esteem.
The right to express my opinions and values. We all have the right to our own opinions, beliefs and values. This may sound simple, perhaps even obvious, but all too often others try to impress their opinions, beliefs and values upon us, negating our right to our own opinions, beliefs and values in the process. When they refuse to allow us the freedom to choose our own opinions, beliefs and values they are violating our rights on a fundamental level.
The right to say ‘no’ and ‘yes’ for myself. When others say no and yes for us they are making decisions for us based upon their priorities and values. It is our fundamental right to make our own decisions based upon our own priorities and values. When others violate this right it disempowers us, and this silently communicates to others, and to ourselves, that we are incapable of making decisions – which is a complete fallacy.
The right to make mistakes and forgive myself. Every person without exception makes mistakes and this right reinforces the right to make those mistakes and forgive ourselves for doing so, understanding that no one is perfect. We also have the right to feel comfortable in admitting our mistakes to others.
The right to change my mind. Each of us has the right to change our mind no matter what the circumstance or reason.
The right to say ‘I don’t understand’ and ask for more information. Usually when we don’t understand we simply need further clarification. This right enables us to feel comfortable in admitting to when we don’t understand and feel confident in asking for more information.
The right to ask for what I want. This right highlights that our wants are just as valid as anyone else’s. We have every right to make reasonable requests of others and ask for what we want.
The right to decline responsibility for other people’s problems. Generally, our own problems are enough to contend with without others imposing their problems onto us also. If others exclaim their problems to us we are within our rights to refuse responsibility for them. Depending on the situation we may not only take responsibility for others problems but try to rescue them too.
The right to deal with others without being dependent on them for approval. This right reminds us that we do not need to seek the approval of others when dealing with them and frees us to deal with people according to our own set of values and beliefs.
Each and every right serves to emphasize our self-worth as dignified, competent and equal human beings. When any of our fundamental rights are violated it silently communicates that either we are incapable or of less worth than others – neither of which is true. Thankfully it is within our control to refuse others violating our rights.
The first step to protecting our rights is to memorize them so we can quickly recognize when they have been violated. The second step is to calmly deal with those who have violated our rights in an assertive way. In being assertive, we create the right in question as a personal boundary and vocalize this to others.